You are the BOSS of your own life.
Happy International Women's Day !!
For years I tried to "Fit in". Fit in because I didn't really know what path I wanted for my life this is probably fairly normal for People in their early 20s but I didn't know what my passions were in life and I didn't know what my purpose was . I hadn't yet figured out who I was as a person.
I just kind of went through the motions of a job I didn't really enjoy and had relationships and friendships with people that I later found out weren't really my "People" weren't my People simply because we had different values or morales or life paths and thats ok.
That quote pops into my head “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there's still going to be somebody who hates peaches. Don't get me wrong its taken me a long time to accept that quote and I dislike conflict. I am ALWAYS the first person to try and fix something and I am not a quitter but sometimes you just have to give up because sometimes people just don't like fruit and aren't worth your time or energy ,
I didn't know what was really important to me and I absolutely didn't know who I was. I would say I didn't really figure out who I was till I was in my late 20's . We do a lot of growing up in our 20s and I realised traits etc about myself and my life I didn't really like but I also found out who I was and realised that I would never try and change or try and "FIT IN " for anyone ever again
I guess the experiences we have mould who we become & teach us what we will allow in our life and what we wont. Losing my Dad taught me that life can be taken in an instant so we have to value every second of our lives.
BE A GOOD PERSON AND BE THE PERSON WHO SMILES AT SOMEONE EVEN IF THEY CHOOSE NOT TO SMILE BACK.
Over the years I have gone from a big circle of friends to a much smaller circle of genuine people in my life. I realised that for me that it was important to have positive people around me who were driven, motivated, kind and supportive. I realised I didn't actually have enough energy to be a good friend to a huge amount of people so I instead started to invest my time and energy into my smaller circle.
WALK AWAY FROM TOXIC & INVEST YOUR ENERGY IN THOSE WHO ARE IMPORTANT.
I realised that to me it was important to have more free time and that money actually wasn't a super important thing for me. I mean don't get me wrong I work really hard and have worked hard to have the 2 businesses I own work out BUT for me it wasn't about the money. Money was always a bonus and its helped me of course but it was always about the good feelings you get from helping others. There is nothing more enjoyable than seeing someone develop their confidence through exercise.
"DO WHAT YOU LOVE AND YOU'LL NEVER WORK A DAY IN YOUR LIFE AGAIN"
I also realised when I left the Police that I would never be an employee again because for me it was so important to be the leader of my own life and that involved being the Boss and not working for someone else.
WALK AWAY FROM A JOB THAT MAKES YOU BORED AND UNHAPPY.
I would never work a 40 hour week doing something that dampened my spark or made me tired so it was about creating a career path that allowed me to be me and didn't feel like work because it was doing what I loved. Actually I would never work a 40 hour week now because luckily I don't have to but I have worked hard to not have to. Whatever job you do you need to do with your heart and passion because you spend a big portion of your life working.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO WHAT SOCIETY SAYS IS THE "NORMAL"
I realised that I LOVED exercise and the endorphins I got from training were something I would never ever give up it just became one of my non negotiable things in life.
FIND YOUR PASSION & WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY AND DO THAT ALL THE TIME.
I luckily stumbled into what Im doing now and I wouldn't have even known this was my passion if I hadn't taken a risk and tried something new.
I would never tolerate living an "average" existence which doesn't actually make me happy. I consider "average" as just someone who is going along with whatever is happening in their life and not taking any control of what they actually want.
DONT SETTLE FOR AVERAGE BECAUSE YOU DONT HAVE.
I saw so many people when I was a cop that were living lives of crime , living in toxic relationships, had no self esteem and that surrounded themselves with people who lead them down the wrong path. So many people tolerate "average" because they are scared to walk away from a job or a relationship or a friendship BUT in some cases if they did walk away they would realise it was actually the right decision and it would make them happier.
You are NEVER stuck ever. You are the "Boss" of your own existence and you can always take a new path at any time.
WRITE DOWN YOUR GOALS AND CONQUER THEM.
Do the things that make you happy, Be with the people who make you happy, Surround yourself with people who are there for you and who put in all the effort you deserve.
Don't waste your time or energy on things that don't set your soul on fire. Life is short and it should be enjoyable and if you want to take a risk DO IT . You are capable of creating a life for you that makes you HAPPY always.
Find who you are by finding what makes you happy and who makes you happy. Quality over quantity when it comes to the people you let into your circle.
Be the boss of your own life because you are the only one who can be.